Can you have a normal relationship with IBS?
It is refreshing to offer our thoughts on a topic rarely considered or written about. The impact IBS may have upon a relationship can be quite significant significant for a plethora of reasons. It will also effect the way we think about ourselves and our ability to select the right partner.
From the very start of a relationship, many sufferers have to either lie to their partner about the reason they have to visit the bathroom so much, or they have to face a conversation which is likely to take the sheen off of any relationship. IBS has never featured heavily in any Hollywood movie and it is the antithesis of how many of us wish to be seen. Not only is it embarrassing, no one wishes to be viewed as anything other than perfect by their prospective love.
Nothing is easy
For many sufferers the most basic tasks can prove difficult when alone, having to do things with a partner can prove relentlessly challenging. Take a sufferer with chronic IBS-
The dream partner
Some of you may have been lucky enough to have discovered your dream partner who accepts you warts and all. That is wonderful. Patience and communication are two of the key features for partners of IBS sufferers. Ideal partners will be people you trust and can talk to. This is at the very heart of the issue, if you are good at this then the rest will follow, as they will be able to understand and empathize with you.
Patience also very important, if you have a partner who makes you anxious this will make your IBS worse, the relationship worse and your life far worse. If you see early signs of impatience, intolerance and a lack of compassion then there is plenty of evidence to suggest you will have major problems down the road.
Our IBS Relationship tips
On a personal note, I hope that others find fulfillment in their relationships. While I am very lucky now I must finish by telling the tale of my first true love and how IBS ruined it. My first love, was the ideal partner for an IBS sufferer, kind, thoughtful and compassionate. We had a very happy relationship, however problems arose when my IBS flared up and I’d become erratic and avoid her.
Wanting to maintain the idea that I was special, led me to not communicate my issues and things gradually started to unravel. Seeing that the IBS was becoming an issue, I started taking more codeine (I had been prescribed this some time ago) which effected my personality. So while I was not rushing to the bathroom all the time, I was vacant and no fun to be around. The relationship gradually ran aground as a result of this, which was distressing, and utterly avoidable.
IBS does not need to be an issue in a relationship, with good communication and a well selected partner it need have no impact at all. However, it is vital that you are as honest and open as you are able to be right from the start.
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